Can you make it through one day without passing judgment on another? How about an hour….can you do it? My guess would be ‘no’. It seems to be a part of our processing mechanisms. We take in information and we rate it (softer word than judge). Think about it…someone says something and we ‘like’ it or we don’t. How often does that then translate into our feelings towards that person?
We have our opinions, our standards, what we believe and what we don’t. How often do we judge those who differ from us? Are we quick to point out how wrong they are?
I’m not sure that we will ever be able to ‘turn off’ our rating mechanisms. Our initial feelings or thoughts about what or who we face each day. What I do think that we can work on, however, is what we do with those judgments? How we react to them?
Here are a few questions to ponder:
- Do I allow a reaction to a comment effect my feelings toward the person who made it?
- Do I react or do I take the time to look deeper? Why did they say that? What is it about their lives or what they are going through at the moment that made them speak as they did.
- What is it about ‘me’ that made me react as I did?
- Am I sure that I am right?
Jesus asks us to ‘love one another’…. That kind of love has to include both compassion and understanding…and sometimes, a muted tongue!