I have a friend who is a teacher. She is bright, attractive, has a wonderful personality and is always willing to lend a helping hand to anyone. There are, however, many people who feel as though she is abrasive and somewhat of a ‘know-it-all’. It is true that when she speaks about anything, she will find a way to tell you that she is a certified teacher within the first few sentences, no matter what you may be conversing about. As soon as those words come out, eyes begin to roll and comments such as, ‘there she goes again’ are heard. I must admit, I have been guilty of that myself. And then I began to really think about the ‘why’ instead of the ‘what’.
Could it be that my intelligent, attractive friend is really so insecure that she has to communicate her ‘credentials’ each time that she speaks? Could it be that she feels as though her thoughts, ideas and suggestions aren’t going to be heard or considered if they are just Mary’s, not Mary the teacher’s? How sad!
Valentine’s Day is on Monday. Perhaps this year we should include ourselves on the ‘people I love this year’ list. Each one of us is unique, worthy and is blessed with gifts beyond our awareness and comprehension. Whatever we do, wherever we live, whatever our age is, we are valued and loved because ‘we are….’
This Valentine’s Day, love yourself, be grateful for who you are, for your gifts and talents. Drop the credentials, they don’t define you. It’s freeing. Laugh a lot, cry a little and thank God who always loves us first.
Oh wow, such insight here. And such wisdom. We all know people like your dear friend…and all of us have a bit of that inclination inside ourselves as well.
We sure do Michelle. Thanks for your kind comments
Lovely thoughts, Andie. Now I think I’ll also go out and buy myself a box of chocolates 😉
Great idea Joanne…some truffles perhaps?
Yes! I could not have expressed this better myself. We are not our jobs, our looks, our achievements, names, or failures. Who we are is much more complex and this is a relieving complexity. 🙂
Thanks Jade…so true, we are so much more.
Asking ‘why’ is the key to understanding …. and maybe empathy too. What you’re sharing here and how you found it, both are wisdom. Thanks, Andie!
Thanks Kim, means a lot.
Wow, Andie… that’s a very clever reflection. I didn’t think about Valentine’s as a day to think of ourselves, and love ourselves for what we are. This is such a neat post!
Also, thanks for stopping by my blog and for your kind comment.
Happy and blessed Valentine’s Day!
Thanks for your thoughts Doris and your kind words. I think that when we can see our own self worth we can appreciate others more.
That is a lovely post about your friend. Sometimes we get ‘locked in’ to certain kinds of behaviour as well. And we begin to live down to the expectations of others.
Unfortunately, Andie, every group usually has a scapegoat of some kind. Could that have happened in your group?
But what you say about belief in self is really important. It is important to know yor own boundaries as well. It took me quite a few years to understand that whilst I worked with people, I did not need to feel part of the group on any terms but my own.
All the best 🙂
You make some great points, thanks for sharing your thoughts here. Boundaries are so important….maybe the topic of another post!
It’s so much easier to love others when we can believe that we ourselves are valued and cherished by God. I think we often forget just how much He loves us. Great thoughts!
You are so right Glenda. It’s especially important to remember when we begin to get down on ourselves and begin to ‘beat ourselves up’
Great post. Well worth reading.
Thanks for your kind words Richard.
Amen. If we can’t love ourselves and forgive ourselves, then we can’t love others either…
So true…now, how do we do that?
That last line sums up things quite well ….
Thanks Sue…we are only capable of love because Love loves us first.
I have spent my entire life not loving myself; loving everyone around me yet never seeing how special I am and how much God loves me – for me.
This past 2 years has been the most painful of my life – and the most liberating. I finally respect myself enough to actually like myself.
Love is around the corner I’m sure. 🙂
You are certainly on a good path, Kris. Discovering and celebrating your self-worth is freeing and I believe that the entire world rejoices with this kind of self-knowledge, liking and then loving. Your honesty is inspiring.
Powerful post. And you are very observant of your friend Mary. Blessings.
Thanks JBR – I think the important question for me was to try to look beyond the what and ask why.
You are so right Andie! And what a great day for this reminder!
Happy Valentine’s Day my friend! 🙂
And a very Happy Valentine’s Day to you as well, Sonja.