What comes to mind when you think about risky behavior? I’m sure that we can all list many. I would like to throw one out there – the behavior that I think is risky is ……loving. Love is one very risky thing. Now, one can say, ‘yes, if I love playing in traffic, that is risky, or if I love petting alligators, that is certainly risky. But, if I love someone, is that risky behavior? YES, absolutely, if you love that someone truly, wholly, and unconditionally (or as close to that as we can in this world).
The kind of love that I am thinking of is love which offers itself freely and asks nothing in return. That means taking the chance that you will not be loved back, and that can pierce your heart. It means sometimes giving everything you’ve got and sometimes holding back and watching the object of your love stumble and fall. That kind of loving means that after getting hurt, you don’t walk away from, you walk back toward. It means making a choice not to give up on, to never give up on, because you believe there is always hope.
Real loving is risky. We all want love to be both given and received. It feels good when someone loves you and it hurts when they don’t. But love offered with strings attached is not really love, I believe. Love frees the other person. Love is emptying, self-sacrificing and worth dying for….sound familiar?